What We Fear Most, Is Often What We Must Do.

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If you take a look back at your life, considering all the ups and downs, all the good and bad moments, all the successes and failures, there is likely a commonality among what have been your most remarkable achievements.

Not to undermine hard work, consistency, proper planning, and all the other daily things required to succeed, but this one is a bit different.

For all the things we are proud of achieving, overall, there was always a voluntary facing of a situation that caused fear within us.

Maybe this was doing your first sales calls, maybe it was gathering the courage to go and talk to the woman you now have by your side, or maybe, it was the decision to go against the grain and do something that truly makes you fulfilled.

Whatever that may be for you, it required facing this fear head-on, for better or worst.

Now, this is not to say that most of your success, in whatever area it may be, will come from a constant battling of fear. Not at all.

Most of the daily things required are quite the opposite of exciting. You’ll get used to them.

However, the decision to start doing them, to risk failure and disappointment, to accept all the bad that may come, that is the daunting part. Not only due to all of these previous possible consequences, as these are the more clear ones, but quite often, due to our own choice to not commit.

Because when we don’t commit to a single pursue, we feel like we have every option available to us. The choices feel limitless.

The problem is, this inability to decide keeps us in the “choice limbo”, a place where all dreams are ready for the taking, but none ever get picked up. This is a dangerous place.

Most people die while never leaving this maze, constantly looking for the next exciting opportunity without ever fully committing their time and effort to one pursuit.

Do you know why that is?

Because it is scary to commit. To choose one option among infinite possibilities means we are rejecting everything else, except this one thing.

We are killing our potential in everything but this one pursuit. And while that may seem much more daunting when you read it, there is something even scarier that we so often fail to realize.

That is: If you don’t choose what potential you want to give up and which to commit to, then life will do so for you.

In the words of Ernest Hemingway:

“The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong at the broken places. But those that will not break it kills. It kills the very good and the very gentle and the very brave impartially.”

Choose your struggles, or let the world pick them for you.

Thank you for reading.

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